The Lingam refers to the male sexual organ and in Sanskrit is loosely translated as "Wand of Light", but really its just a dick. In Tantric the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honoured that channels creative energy and pleasure. The main thing to understand by this practice is that men need to learn to relax and receive. Normally men have a goal in mind and try to be the one to do the job. It's important to let the man know that with the Lingam massage he should be relaxed and just enjoy the moment.
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcomed side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to.
Pour some oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your hand, pull up and slide off, keep alternating hands. Remind him that this is his moment and to relax and give 100% trust to you.
Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantric they refer to many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is believed that many ailments may be cured by a good Lingam massage. The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience.
If it appears that the receiver is going to orgasm, stop and pay attention to everything else but the lingam, allowing the lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm itself but to enjoy the moment of relaxation. Men can also learn to control their ejaculation with stimulating practice and eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. With more practice a man's orgasm and ejaculation become two separate events, the result is a very expanded sex life.
Another technique is called "The Sacred Spot", there is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger midway between the testicles and anus. Push inward but be gentle and he will feel the pressure deep inside, it may be uncomfortable at first. Working with this area can also expand his orgasms and ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with one hand and massage his Sacred Spot with the other. Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation.
In the end this is all about relaxation, trust, experiences, learning, and the moment. So go ahead and enjoy a nice Lingam massage today, while not every massage parlour will have mastered these skills it doesn’t hurt trying to find the right one and enjoying all the wrong ones along the way. So start searching for a massage parlour close to you now!
Find that Lingam Massage now!